Content warning: This post discusses family boundaries and mentions abuse. Please read with care.
The holidays come packed with expectations: joy, celebration, gifts and connection. But for many Aussies, beneath the tinsel and cheer, this time of year can spark stress, fatigue and even sadness.
It’s totally normal to feel a mix of emotions as December rolls in. Looking after your mind is just as important as sorting the shopping, planning a feast, or making the big day Insta-worthy, and we’re here to remind you it’s ok if “festive” comes and goes, or if it doesn’t come at all.
Recognising When It’s Time to Ask for Support This Festive Season
Sometimes, changes in our mood or behaviour can creep in gradually. Evidence and clinical research highlight these early signs to keep an eye out for, especially during busy periods like Christmas (Better Health Channel, b):
- Withdrawing from friends or family
- Changes in sleep, appetite, or personal hygiene
- Persistent sadness, irritability, anxiety or low mood
- Finding it harder to concentrate, make decisions or cope with daily tasks
- Using alcohol or drugs more than usual, or taking more risks
- Losing interest in work, hobbies or relationships you previously enjoyed
- Physical symptoms like headaches, gut issues or fatigue that won’t budge
- Feeling hopeless, ‘flat’, or in a negative headspace even if you try to stay positive
- Dodging social situations or events that you would normally enjoy
Whether you’re excited for Christmas, dreading it, or somewhere in between, these strategies may help you care for your brain, boost resilience, and create space for yourself this silly season.
1. Honour How You’re Feeling
Not feeling merry? You’re not alone. Many people experience grief, loneliness, or anxiety around the holidays-the contrast with social expectations can make tough feelings sharper. It’s ok to feel these emotions without judgement and let yourself off the hook from forced celebration.
2. Find Your Rest, Reflect, Refresh Ritual
Prioritising rest can feel like medicine for your brain and body. Set aside guilt-free time to chill, nap, or just opt out of hustle. Try a body scan meditation (page 2 of our holiday toolkit), a mindful walk, or simply zoning out with your favourite show. Even a few conscious breaths can reset your system and ease stress (Better Health Channel, a).
3. Aim for ‘Good Enough’ Connection
Connection matters, but you get to choose what’s right. Maybe you’re up for a big family lunch, or maybe one-on-one time or a Zoom call feels safer this year. Setting boundaries is healthy. It’s okay to say no to plans or people when you need to protect your wellbeing. However, sometimes asserting yourself is more complex, such as if you are in an abusive relationship. For more information and support please see out toolkit here or you can directly access nationwide services:
1800RESPECT: https://1800respect.org.au/, or call directly on 1800 737 732. For the national relay service contact 1800 555 677, and for an interpreter 13 14 50
Or for more helpline options visit https://whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/
And if you are feeling isolated, you can reach out to a helpline like https://www.beyondblue.org.au/ or online forum, or drop a note to a friend.
4. Look After Your Basics
The simple stuff can work! Drink water, eat regularly, and aim for a bit of movement... think walking in nature if you can or else a big stretch in your living room is a great start. Give yourself permission to keep sleep routines steady where you can; rest can help regulate your mood and focus, even on busy days (Better Health Channel, c).
5. Coping When Things Get Tricky
Sometimes the best thing you can do is get through the day. Afraid of a tense family chat? Make a plan for a walk or a quick exit if you need space. Finding it hard to manage finances or complex feelings? Our My Mirror psychologists are ready to listen and offer flexible appointments 21/7 (even during the holidays). Click here if you would like to be matched with a Psychologist on the My Mirror platform.
6. Extra Resources: Grab the Toolkit
For more step-by-step mental wellness practices-from grounding exercises to self-reflection prompts-check out our free Holiday Wellness Guide. It’s designed for everyone, whether you’re thriving or just getting by.
Download the free toolkit here.
The information in this blog post is for general educational purposes only and does not replace professional psychological advice. If you are experiencing psychological distress please seek support from a qualified mental health professional. In an emergency contact 000.
REFERENCES
Breathing to reduce stress | Better Health Channel
Early signs and intervention with mental illness | Better Health Channel
Mood and Sleep | Better Health Channel
